It really upsets me to think of anybody being alone on the holidays. Since I was a child, it bothered me to think of anybody having to live alone or not have somebody to share their life with overall. I guess that maybe I found out early in my life that it is not good to be lonely and I always surrounded myself with people. Now that I am older, I realize I am the extreme, I really prefer not to be alone. I remind Howard all the time that my mother always said, "Donna needs constant attention and entertainment." When I mentioned this to my daughter Jessica, she said she was the exact same way. We both love to be around people and have a hard time just being isolated from others and not having constant interaction with others.
I could not imagine having to spend a holiday by myself. It seems so sad not having somebody to share your life with or to share your meals with or to share your thoughts with, etc. Many people choose not to get married or be in a relationship, yet I still have a tendency to feel sorry for them on many occasions. In my mind, I find it difficult to fathom that somebody would actually choose not to share their life with somebody else. I have met young men and women who are alone, yet I have met 80-year-old men and women who always are in a relationship. There seems to be no age limit to who wants to be alone and who does not, so I am guessing that it is based on a person's individual personality.
A lot of people tell me that I must not like my own company, but I do not think that is really the case, rather I prefer to share my time with others. Even when my children were very young, I found activities that kept us around other people and surrounded myself with adult conversations. When they went to school, I volunteered so that I would not be isolated at home, especially during the long winter months.
It was through the schools that I made some of my best friends to this day, which turned out to be a great thing in my life. With today's technology, cell phones, Facebook, Twitter, etc. it is far easier to be in constant contact with others. I find this extremely gratifying. It is way easier not to be lonely these days – you can talk on the phone or text right while you are shopping. I wonder if my mother is looking down at me from heaven and saying, "I told you so"...